I’d like to think that I am for the simple fact that it’s easier to think before you speak online. What I mean by this (and I’m sure you’ve all had these moments) is that often times when I’m having a conversation in real life with someone I’ll think of a brilliant comeback to a comment they made hours after the fact. And I can’t help but think about how clever I would have sounded had I been able to deliver my witty one-liner at the time. Online, you have that niffy backspace key so no one ever has to know about that stupid thing you were going to say while as face-to-face, once you’ve put your foot in your mouth you can’t take it back. Also, it’s expected that there’s a delay between responses on social media platforms like Twitter but in RL people may think you’re slow if it takes you more than a few second to respond so you don’t have as much time to come up with funny rebuttals.
More often than not, I draw a complete blank during social interactions and end up looking like a deer caught in headlights. When I do manage to spit something out, I tend to give one word answers much to my fiancé’s chagrin. Needless to say, my dinner conversational skills are severely lacking. Yes, I’m that annoying person who responds “Nothing” when asked “What’s new?” or “Yes” to “Do you like…?” I’d much rather work on a project with someone than sit down to a cup of coffee. Weird, I know. I’d take embarrassing myself wakeboarding over girl talk any day. At least with the former you can chat about the experience you shared and have a good laugh or two. It’s hard to sweat the small stuff when you’re busy making a fool of yourself.
The bloggers I met at RT all said that in person I’m exactly like I am online except I say “Eh” way more often which was a huge relief. I was a little worried about how I’d handle five days of mingling at the convention but once it clicked that every single person there LOVES books as much as I do, it was easy. Common interests goes a long way into taking the awkwardness out of conversations with strangers. That being said, maybe they all lied to me to be nice. I’m sure I’ll find out their true thoughts once comments on this post start to trickle in. 😉